Many single women in their 20s and 30s have achieved what they thought was the feminist dream of getting more college degrees and making more money than most men. They are leading successful, exciting lives and seem to have it all, except one thing: a good husband. Where have all the good men gone? That's the question Kay Hymowitz explores in her new book called Manning Up: How the Rise of Women Has Turned Men into Boys. This author describes young people in their 20s and 30s as "pre-adults." They have filled their lives with college, careers, and the singles' scene instead of following the traditional script of getting married and having children. This has become a major demographic phenomenon.
Kay Hymowitz explains that by the time women reach their late 20s or early 30s and realize they want to start a family, their male contemporaries seem stuck in perpetual, adolescent boyhood. Hymowitz calls them "child-men." With no women or children counting on them as providers, men have plenty of time and money to spend on their own pleasures. There is no motivation for men to give up their freedom since sex is no longer confined to the bounds of marriage. By their actions, women have been telling men they are unnecessary and men are playing the part.
Manning Up by Kay Hymowitz is a sobering look at the social facts of today. A New York Times regular Op-Ed columnist wrote a book called Are Men Necessary? While fun may be readily available in colleges, bars, and in front of a video screen, fulfillment, love and commitment have become evasive. As they grow older alone, many young men and women become bitter. The sooner this problem is realized, the sooner we may find a solution.
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